This is a sponsored conversation by me on behalf of Profile by Sanford. All opinions are my own.
Getting dressed each morning for me is something that happens in stages. Half the time the clothes I put on are on the floor of my room, my jacket is on the back of my desk chair, and my shoes are in whichever kid’s bedroom I took them off in before I laid in someone else’s bed to sing them to sleep.
Anyone else with me on this?
Mom life is hard enough- and so last year I decided that on the rare occasion I am all dressed and ready and get to look at myself in the mirror, I wanted it to be a positive experience.
Yep- I’m talking about the Holy Grail of Non-Scale Victories (also knows as NSVs)- self-acceptance. In this post I’ll share 5 NSVs I get to celebrate on the daily thanks to Sanford Health.
Self Acceptance- Finally
It has taken me a looong ass time to get to the point where, when I look in the mirror, I see a beautiful body. I’d much rather mourn the loss of my flat stomach (thanks pregnancy #2) or criticize my huge biceps (thanks genetics) or wish that I was taller.
But I worked damn hard to get to the point where I can celebrate the body that I was given- and look at feet that walk over 15,000 steps every day. Look at eyes that read 78 books last year. And legs that dance better than any other mom I know.
So last week when my Profile by Sanford coach told me we were setting weight-loss goals for 2020- I pushed back hard. I didn’t not want to be defined by the number on the scale. So I offered my coach a LITANY of excuses:
- “I already weigh less than I did when I got pregnant for the first time.”
- “I love my body and it’s taken me a long time to get here.”
- And finally- “Weight loss is too much work!”
Which was the real truth- in my already busy life I didn’t feel like I deserved to commit time to myself.
Let that sink in.
I didn’t think I deserved to be happy. That sentiment is pretty damn rooted in a lack of self-acceptance.
So while I may have accepted my physical appearance, I definitely didn’t internalize the fact that I deserve to spend time each day doing things that make me feel happy, successful, and strong.
I’m going to share five reasons I decided to stay on the Profile Plan in 2020- and every single one is a huge non-scale victory too! My hope is that you can learn from my journey, and- if it resonates- join me on the Profile by Sanford Plan in 2020.
Ready? Let’s go!
Related post: How NOT To Gain Weight Over The Holidays
Personalized Activity and Lifestyle Coaching
Every single week I meet with my coach Amber to go over my diet, exercise, and weight. We talk about what worked for me and what didn’t as far as Profile Plan- but we do so much more than that.
Because every week Amber makes sure I take a minute to celebrate my successes and set an actionable goal that I can achieve for the next week.
For example, last week I found and cooked two new recipes that my whole family can eat, and I made sure that I ate a starch I enjoy every night at dinner. Two healthy goals that feel good to me and model a healthy lifestyle for my family- and have absolutely nothing to do with the number on the scale.
Amber has become more than just a nutrition coach for me- she has become a partner in my journey to live a better life -that’s an NSV right there!
I know if I forget to weigh in on Monday- Amber’s gonna have an email in my inbox. I know that when I walk in wearing clothes a size smaller than before, Amber’s gonna give me a huge hug (and mean it).
I also know that at the end of every single appointment, before I can ever drive back to my house, Amber is going to have an email in my inbox complete with:
- A recap of my success from the previous week
- An outline of my tasks for the week to stay on track with my program
- Resources I can use to complete those tasks
- A reasonable goal that I can meet to feel success
People- what weight loss program offers one on one coaching rolled right into the price? I can tell you- none.
I’m Learning To Measure Progress Everywhere!
One of my biggest goals for 2020 is to grow Pura Vida Moms into a bigger and more informative website. The only way I can do so is by setting long term goals, and breaking down the tasks I need to do each day, week, month and quarter in order to achieve my dreams.
You know what? Living a healthy, happy, full lifestyle is the exact same! I have to make sure that I organize my time in order to make and eat healthy meals. I have to make sure that I get in the exercise I need to be able to sleep well at night. And I have to celebrate my wins- even if it just means both kids were fed, dressed, and out the door for school with no complaining.
6 months ago- I might do something really awesome (like visiting Finland for the first time) and never even really feel proud of the accomplishment. (Truth be told I might not even feel worthy of sharing the experience if it weren’t for this blog.)
My inability to celebrate my successes has led me to constantly feel like I’m not good enough. Not a good enough parent. Not a good enough friend. Not a good enough wife… you get the idea.
But when I’m on Plan, and measuring my progress (even if it’s just sticking to my personalized nutrition plan for one week!) I am constantly learning to measure progress and celebrate my small wins on the daily. It’s a huge mind shift that’s making me happier overall. And it has nothing to do with the scale!
Huge Non-Scale Victory- I’m Happier!
I started my journey with Profile by Sanford in September 2019- I was at a pretty darn low point in my life both professionally and personally, and I thought weight loss would make me feel better. If I could just lose weight, the rest of my life would be better. Skinnier people have more success, right?
That’s what Hollywood would make you believe, but it’s not the truth. The truth is that people who take really good care of their bodies are happier- but not because of how they look.
I’m happier because I’m meeting my goals. I’m happier because I work out regularly and so I sleep better. I’m happier because I’m saving money for my next vacation by eating more food at home. I’m happier because the self-discipline I’m cultivating in my personal life is bleeding over into my professional life- and I’m having more success professionally than I have had in a long time.
Plus, you know the old saying “When momma ain’t happy ain’t nobody happy?” Well, the opposite is true too- when Mom is happy, the rest of the family is happier too.
Celebrating non-scale victories, having enough energy to rock my workouts, and laughing a lot more with my kids- every single one of those is a huge victory!
My Family Is Living A Healthier Lifestyle
As 2019 moved to a close, I noticed that while we eat almost all of our meals at home, my kids were not eating enough vegetables. That was causing some, er, digestive issues.
On top of that, the kids were sleeping a lot less because they have so much energy. Guess what? We weren’t getting enough exercise.
But- when I’m prioritizing the things that I need to be healthy- (which coincidentally include exercise and eating vegetables)- I am dragging my kids and husband right along with me. Which means they are living better lives as well.
Over Winter Break break we:
And- I made it a priority to get to the gym once a week- and the kids weren’t even mad about going to the Kid Watch at the gym. Know why? Because they know how much better I feel when I take a Zumba class.
Modeling how non-food related activities make us feel happy, healthy and strong is a value I want to pass on to my children, and it’s happening at Casa Pura Vida right now. And quite frankly, that’s one of the best non-scale victories around!
I Have The Confidence To Live My Best Life
A year ago my blog was in ruins, a crazy lady was trying to take my house away from me, my kids were miserable in school, and my husband was recently unemployed.
It was a bad time. So I listened to this awesome goal setting podcast that would help me get on track. Instead of being motivating- it just made me sad.
I think ultimately I was sad because I didn’t feel confident that I had the skills to achieve my goals. And in 2019 I didn’t meet any of my goals, because I didn’t set any.
What I realized here at the end of the year is that having some sort of daily measurable success is the key to my personal happiness. In other words, when I feel that I have achieved something tangible, I feel like I have had a great day.
And as so many of us know, parenting doesn’t offer much tangible success. Marriage doesn’t offer much tangible success. blogging is super creative and messy and unpredictable- and it doesn’t offer much tangible success.
Where I can feel like I’ve been successful each and every day is by sticking to my nutrition plan, tracking that success, and sharing it with my coach. When I have just one, daily, tangible success, the rest of my life falls into place. It a mindset thing.
The number on the scale? That’s just gravy. The craziest part of all of this is that the more days I have where I meet my Profile goals- the faster I lose weight. That’s because the program combines nutrition, activity, and lifestyle meshed together to form a crazy perfect meld of personal success. (Shout out to the teams of physicians and researchers that created the plan!)
So- I’m ready for you to join me on this Profile Journey. You can start by just improving your health- mental and physical. But- members lose weight- a lot of it. I’m offering $100 off a 1 -year Profile by Sanford membership to all Pura Vida Moms readers- click here for the code!
In the meantime- will you please share your favorite non-scale victories with me in the comments?