I spent last weekend at the amazing #WeAllGrow Latina Summit, and the time is Long Beach was nothing short of inspiring. I mean, a trip to Disney studios to preview Beauty and the Beast, being pampered by Neutrogena in their amazing suite, and hearing powerful stories from real-life Latina Disney Princess storytellers? Yes, please. However, one of the people I met at the Summit had a huge impact on my daily life (and revolutionized how my 22 month old thinks about her hair)- and that was the time I spent with David Lopez in the Shea Moisture Suite learning how to style my hair with easy, soft waves. Once I mastered a look that I love, my self-esteem and positive feelings about myself just grew from there. Here are 5 ways that doing my hair has empowered me to make positive changes in my life.
I have always had super long, thick hair. Growing up we never went to the hair salon- our mom trimmed our hair and I kept it in a sock bun on top of my head. I have great hair- nice color, nice texture, easy, so I tended to invest my time in other areas (like weight loss!) instead of my hair. In Novemeber I decided to cut my hair into a long-ish bob and went to a new salon. After almost two hours in the chair, my haircut was a disaster- it looked like I had a mushroom on my head. I went back to have it fixed, and it just got worse. Only one side of my head was super texturized with a razor, and the other was just hanging in pieces. It was too short to put up, and I didn’t know how to style it. I tend to be a go-with-the-flow person as far as my hair goes, but I didn’t actually realize how much the bad haircut was affecting my daily life until I had my hair styled by David Lopez.
First and foremost- David validated my feelings about my hair. I had been hating it, but everyone kept telling me “what are you talking about? It’s cute.” Not David. He respectfully told me that my hairstyle was O-V-E-R- but then he took a minute to get to know me and my personality before matching me with a hair style. I feel so great when my hair looks awesome that I do my hair every day- and it’s changed my life in 5 powerful ways. (To see a bit more about my hair story check out the Facebook Live video David and I shot at #WeAllGrow.)
5 Ways My Hairstyle Empowered Me
- I use a clip in my hair. I have been known for several years now for almost always adorable hair pieces and clips in my hair. Curating a special collection and wearing them with a fun top was something that made me happy each day as I got ready. When I hated my hair, I stopped wearing my adorable clips (and I actually gave most of them away, which is making me feel super sad.) Since perfecting the soft waves hair style, I have been wearing my fun hairpieces again, and that little spark of joy has come back to my days.
- I say “yes” when I would have said “no.” At #WeAllGrow many of my colleagues mentioned how great I would be on video. I have always said no to video- and now I’m saying yes! Between the Facebook Live video David and I shot at the Summit, or my interview in Spanish about raising bilingual kids, to my upcoming Facebook Live with Jeannette Kaplun on the importance of school lunch programs, I’ve been saying “yes” to opportunities I normally would shy away from. I am finding ways to surround myself with people who believe in my, and it feels so good.
- I promote my digital content. I was in a pretty heavy downward spiral recently as I looked at my analytics and social media numbers for my blog. Even though I’m just one year old, I had this idea that people weren’t looking at my content because it isn’t any good- and I stopped writing. What I now realize is that my content is good– it’s just in stiff competition with a lot of other good content. When I do my hair, I tend to do more social media promotion. (Yep, it’s weird, but true!)
- I take time for myself each day. In order to do my hair and makeup, I need time. That means outsourcing some of the jobs that I normally take on in order to spend time feeling good about myself. It’s 20 minutes- and admittedly on a few days that means my daughters watch 20 minutes of television so that I can get ready. It’s important though, to model self-confidence for our daughters, and I think the occasional extra screen time has been worth it. Plus, I’m a happier mom when I interact with them, and that’s always a good thing.
- I leave the house more often. This week I have worked from a hip coffee shop (where the barista thought I looked so cool he asked to take photos of me working!), taken my girls on a hike, gone to dinner at a friend’s house, and shot photos for my first fashion review. Normally, I look for reasons not to leave the house- and stay home wallowing in my bad hair and ugly yoga pants. Getting out of the house feeling good has been a huge confidence booster- and allowed me to connect with people that make me feel happy.
I was extremely lucky to have had the chance to sit in David Lopez’s styling chair, and in the process get to know him and myself a bit better. If you ever ever ever have the chance to work with David Lopez, I guarantee your life will be changed. But I know that’s not realistic for most of us. What I encourage you to do is find ONE area of your life that bothers you, find an expert in that area, and invest the time and money to learn how to make it better. You won’t regret it- self confidence and empowerment open the doors to opportunities that we can’t imagine- especially when we feel yucky about ourselves.
What has empowered you recently to do something you would normally have shied away from? How did it go? Let us know in the comments below- we love to hear from our readers!
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